This is a board for polyamory, not just sexual threesomes. So you're going to get advice about the "amor" part, ie: romantic feelings, love. I started teasing my husband about it every now and then. Sometimes when we'd have sex I'd talk about her being there. It always was about wanting more sex than my husband could offer, and sex different from that which any one person could provide, that pushed him over the edge.

He was furious and threatened to tell my husband. I knew I had to tell him myself. When I confessed, he was crushed, more because I had lied to him than because I had slept with her. I cried and cried, wondering if I had destroyed my marriage, if he would leave me, but also wondering if I would ever be happy, ever be sexually satisfied, ever find a way to make this work. We have pioneered the largest worldwide conversation about what it means to be a good man in the 21st century. Oh, well, as long as you and your wife are happy, who really cares if you treat another person like a sex toy.In fact, although my partner Pixi and I usually date separately, we have experimented a bit with threesome or foursome sex with a couple of my bfs. The worst part of that was my bf getting distracted by NRE sex with Pixi (or another female friend we had there for that foursome), and neglecting me. So it caused a rift between me and the bf who neglected me, not a rift between me and Pixi. It actually brought Pixi and me closer, because she saw I was hurt, and she shared my anger after the fact, at how the bf neglected me to spend more time focused on pleasing himself with her, or pleasing her (or the other woman we had the foursome with), leaving me hanging, turned on and unsatisfied. How to do it: The 69 partners face each other while ensuring their heads are positioned in each other’s genitals. The top partner should be at the edge of the bed. Next, the penetrating partner positions from behind for vaginal or anal sex. Given that our sexual and emotional needs can’t be met fully by just one person, the sexual and emotional are simply two more dimensions that our marriage takes on. When she finds love outside of our marriage, our marriage becomes that much more special and beautiful. Essentially, we’ve devised an emotional and social construct that allows us to indulge almost anything we like, and still remain faithful to the tenets of our love to each other. Some fantasies need to stay just that. I'm not a huge proponent of marriage, nor do I buy into the idea of monogamy-for-a-lifetime, it's against all science. But for those who are married, a 3rd party in the bedroom will destroy the intimacy with your spouse, and isn't that the main reason for marriage (other than the fact it's better for raising children and it's mandated by religion and societal 'norms')?

She wasn't the first woman I’d been with. When my husband and I began dating, I told him that I was bisexual. My wife was one of very few entities in this world that I had a physical reaction to when I first met her. Her girlfriend is no different. Her physical beauty aside, (with which she is extremely rich) this woman has a luminous soul and is so awkward it sets my heart breaking. Being secretive, lying, or sneaking around — those would be surefire ways to destroy our marriage. But the sex itself is not a threat.Edit: I see this has been going on for 9 months already. Why are you just now starting to question things? What do you need to learn, what do you wish to express to your Wife and Unicorn? This triad has had long weekends and longer vacations together. Of course, they are not having sex constantly on these vacations. Of course, they are sightseeing, going to the bathroom, eating, shopping, talking, driving or walking through airports, flying, arranging accommodations, etc., etc. Wife can play with unicorn whenever she wants though she has not? Is that correct? But you are not allowed alone time with unicorn?